tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post7668532259361412310..comments2023-11-05T01:15:51.891-08:00Comments on Arranging pieces...: Baby clothes and gender roles...Sherihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16135818979502891369noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post-5252860152312166902010-11-19T07:56:20.768-08:002010-11-19T07:56:20.768-08:00Sheri-- as you know, I totally agree. :) I love th...Sheri-- as you know, I totally agree. :) I love this perspective! As for the author you quoted, I would challenge her in one respect. She noted that she hates when women depend on their sexuality or use it to get by. Instead, I would say that I am disappointed in a society that has taught women it is the best, quickest, and most efficient way to get what is not available with real gumption, intelligence and savvy. We are too good at blaming the victim in our society! Perhaps some women choose this avenue because they have been shown that it is the only option-- my goal is to provide women with more choices, and ask men to work with us to stop that cycle. Its not all on the women! I agree with much of her sentiment, and if I ever have a little girl, we will also have a "no princess" home. :)Professor Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03130156997792727956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post-82689381448801333242010-11-11T19:37:22.887-08:002010-11-11T19:37:22.887-08:00Totally in agreement. I couldn't stand a major...Totally in agreement. I couldn't stand a majority of the things offered for boys or girls. It seemed like everything had a truck or an animal or just some cheesy phrase on it. I found that Baby Gap does have some decent stuff that you can often get WAY on sale after it's been out for a while (stripes, etc.) and also really have liked H&M (like Barbara said) and American Apparel is good too. Sawyer wears his American Apparel black karate sweat pants about every day and the plain tops they have. I'd rather him look plain and simple personally. <br /><br />Also, I plan on getting him a set of play food and a doll of some sort for Christmas. Men take care of kids these days...might as well get comfortable with it from their childhood, right? :)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16495420255101853794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post-54643404848238617882010-11-10T18:07:14.682-08:002010-11-10T18:07:14.682-08:00One more thing:
A friend who grew up in Sweden ha...One more thing:<br /><br />A friend who grew up in Sweden had parents who really wanted him to lead a gender neutral childhood. So they gave him both boy and girl toys. One day his mother looked out her window to see him using his stroller as a dump truck. : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post-51108076528346869682010-11-10T18:04:50.827-08:002010-11-10T18:04:50.827-08:00I'm with you girl. It's not a fun thing a...I'm with you girl. It's not a fun thing and pretty hard to avoid but you can do it! H&M has some great solid items for both genders and really . . . just throw the babe in a white onesie and call it a day. We've managed (with hard work) to not have Sanne obsessed with princesses (I'm not a fan of the idea of weak female characters or the idea of entitlement) but like with anything in parenting there is always a balance.<br /> : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post-10123508779085942722010-11-07T19:30:26.238-08:002010-11-07T19:30:26.238-08:00Sheri - I know exactly where you are coming from! ...Sheri - I know exactly where you are coming from! Our sweet 30 month old daughter does not yet own a Barbie or really anything "princess-y". She has one hand-me-down princess shirt, has been given some princess stickers, and her vitamins are in the shape of princesses. She LOVES Thomas the train, her matchbox cars, Caillou, and Dora. We've given her CHOICES and these are decisions she's made herself. If she'd have chosen Barbies and princesses, she would have those. You will run into a lot of people who won't support you, but in the end, you are MOM and you know your gut feeling. <br />To find more neutral clothes (don't get me wrong - she LOVES pink and purple, tutus and shiny shoes) look in baby boutiques, not the chain, big box stores. I've found a lot of fantastic boy clothes (for my nephews) in these one-of a kind, family run stores. Good luck with everything, and here's another interesting read: http://nerdyapplebottom.com/2010/11/02/my-son-is-gay/Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09367462659585741308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post-2249473657144815922010-11-07T18:37:31.114-08:002010-11-07T18:37:31.114-08:00Right on, Sheri! I have done much eye rolling whil...Right on, Sheri! I have done much eye rolling while shopping for my daughter and other children--why may our kids not embrace every color of the rainbow? Oh and as far as your plan goes, of buying boyish clothes that you would put on a girl as well, I think Baby Gap has good options (pricey stuff, but stuff goes on sale pretty quickly). On that note, I couldn't help myself: How cute is this??? http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=54649&vid=1&pid=785786<br />Anyways, what were we talking about? Oh yes, princess stuff. Our home won't be a "princess free zone" because I'm not going to prescribe what grandparents and other loved ones may or may not purchase for Lucie, but the princess gear will not come from us. I don't have the best feelings about it (I mean what is a princess but one born into or married into privilege?), but I don't see the harm in letting others play it up for her from time to time. And she can decide for herself what she likes when she's older.<br />I was expressing similar thoughts to what you've written here to my aunt a couple of weeks ago, and I started to feel like I was coming across a little neurotic, so I apologized for "overthinking things" and she told me it's much better than not thinking at all. So kudos to you for thinking about it! :)Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10254259871655357828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post-34169243182680450162010-11-07T18:03:00.665-08:002010-11-07T18:03:00.665-08:00I knew we were roommates for a reason.
Yes, It i...I knew we were roommates for a reason. <br /><br />Yes, It is VERY hard to ignore the princess drama and I have tried really hard...yet to no avail. ugh. I went as far as to stop the Disney princess crap before it started but it is difficult. Lindy wants to pick every pink book in the library...guess what they are? PRINCESS books.<br /><br />Can't WAIT to hear about your little baby!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2735627462844813021.post-10729499821873864742010-11-07T17:26:42.584-08:002010-11-07T17:26:42.584-08:00I am so with you on this, Sheri. Though I'm no...I am so with you on this, Sheri. Though I'm not shopping for baby clothes for David and me, we have seven nieces and nephews for whom we've (read: I've) struggled to find non-princess or non-boy clothes. I hate the thought of a girl being raised to believe she's a princess or, as you mentioned, a diva. Good grief. And making a boy feel that, if he doesn't like trucks and sports, he's not masculine? Such a load of crap. <br /><br />Bravo to you for thinking outside the gender boxes. And good luck in your search for clothing that is not gender-specific to a fault.Ann-Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07596584450758221509noreply@blogger.com